Williamsburg mom prepared to face charges for abandoning “dangerous” son

UPDATE: Kimberlyn Williams' son is currently at Riverside Behavioral Health Center in Hampton. She does not want him to come home and she has been told by Child Protective Services that if she does not pick him up she could still get jail time. 

She showed NewsChannel 3 paperwork documenting the years of doctor write-ups and school suspension reports. 

Williamsburg, Va. - Kimberlyn Williams feels unsafe in her own home because of her 12-year-old son.

“I am his mother and I do love him, but he`s dangerous,” Williams says.

She says he's so dangerous that she is prepared to face jail time to keep him out of the house, to not only protect herself, but her two younger children.

“I have been hit, bit, kicked,” she says. “He has threatened to stab children at school, to kill them. He has these outbursts.”

She says her son is now at Riverside Behavioral Health Center in Hampton. He was put there after Williams called police last week because of what she says she witnessed between her son and four-year-old daughter.

“When I went in, I found him exposing himself to her and trying to coerce her to touch him,” Williams says.

Williams says that was the final straw after years of violent and inappropriate behavior, and years of trying to get him the help he needs.

“It`s not a case of us not trying to get him help,” she says. “This is not an isolated incident. It’s been a gauntlet of doctors and medications and diagnoses.”

Her son is set to be released Thursday, but Williams does not want to bring him home.

“If I do not show up to get him, I will face criminal charges or child abandonment,” she says.

Williams says Child Protective Services told her if she refuses to take him, her son would be placed in a 24-hour supervision residential facility -- something she’s wanted all along. She says it would take police arresting her to get her wish.

“I want something to get done,” Williams says. “I don`t want it to be you take this one and you risk your other children’s health and safety or you go to jail. There has to be a better way.”

To get her son the help he needs, Williams says she's prepared to face the consequences.

“Nobody wants to talk about this,” she says. “It`s something we would certainly consider a private family issue, but along those lines maybe it can help other people.”

Neither James City County Police nor CPS will comment.


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    • hgscjjab

      I would like to sympathize with the mother. I too, have a son with Aspergers. He was wrongly diagnosed with all sorts of things including schizophrenia as a child. He was put on all sorts of medication, some of which made him worse. He was constantly in trouble. I even had a teacher tell me he was evil. I was at the school practically every day. I cried a lot. I tried things over and over. One thing I did not do was give up on him. You are setting him up for abuse by other children and bias by teachers. At 12 years old boys are just going through puberty and trying to figure things out. When you saw what you saw, you should have explained to him that it was wrong. You should also explain to the younger children to immediately tell you if he does it again. If you have to find a way to keep the children apart unless your with them, do that. I am sorry but I think what the mother is doing is wrong. Children with Aspergers may seem like they have no emotions and can’t understand but they do have emotions and feel things just like the rest of us, they just don’t know how to express it. I so hope this child can heal from this. My son is now an adult doing well, making good choices, and succeeding. I don’t think he would have turned out as good had I given up on him and labeled him as dangerous to society, at 12 years old.

      • Susan

        Actually sociopathic behavior in children in many cases abates after puberty. For those that it does not well, we know how they turn out. But your son did not get better because of you, he got better because his brain chemistry changed at puberty. The scientific evidence is there. I urge you to look it up and quit telling other mothers how to handle violent children.

        • Jeffrey L. Whitaker

          Susan, biology alone is an insufficient answer for the development, maintenance, or resolution of dysfunction- especially sociopathic behaviors. Of course, in a child we refer to these behaviors as conduct disordered behaviors. A child’s environment is more predictive of behavior than his biology. Genes certainly play a role. The structure and function of specific brain areas plays a role. Organic causes can also be a factor. However, the relationship between a child’s biology and his environment remains the central theme in the development and maintenance of dysfunction. We cannot influence a child’s biology. We can, however, address his environment. To that end, research supports several approaches that have shown to be effective in addressing conduct disordered behaviors. It is true that conduct disordered behaviors sometimes resolve. All children with conduct disordered behaviors will not persist to antisocial personality disorder- though a significant percentage will. Nonetheless, a mother’s (or better yet family’s) efforts to address conduct disordered behaviors should not be marginalized. A functional and supportive family is likely the single best approach to addressing unwanted behaviors.

  • Mother

    This is a very interesting story and I do sympathize with you! I am in a similar boat but my son is still really young. We noticed last year he would go into these manic rages, scream at the top of his lungs how he wants all those who he perceives as being mean to him to die. Its really hard to hear your 6/7 year old say things and struggle. We talked to our doctors and got him an appointment with a therapist. He set him up for testing and after 3 and a half months of endless tests we got our diagnoses of ADHD, Anxiety Disorder and High Functioning Autism (Asperger’s). He was put on medication and he flipped 180 degrees. We still have our challenges, still go to therapy, and we still get our anger issues. We are VERY lucky to have caught it so young but every day is a challenge. All I can say is don’t give up, there is a way you’ll find it!

  • Heidi

    How is this story even legal to broadcast? What about the rights of this child as a minor? Now, anyone who knows the mother knows who the child is.

          • Heidi

            Good for her for speaking out and getting her son the help that he desperately needs. But it is not her place to go to a local news outlet, show her face and name and let everyone know.

        • Chris

          It is not illegal if a parent allows it to go through. Since this is his mother, she has the right to speak about it. She went to the news outlet because without it she may lose all her kids and stay in jail.

        • Snugbug

          Heidi, he is a minor and is not being directly identified, so there is nothing ILLEGAL about this. Apparently Ms. Williams has attempted to get help for him through traditional channels but to no avail – I would imagine that airing such heartbreaking details about her family is a last-ditch effort to get help for her son that he so desperately needs.

    • marcopolish

      Big whup, Heidi, you have no sense of proportion. First off, the identity is the property of the mother; she is not a provider whose use of information is controlled. Second, she has obviously been forced into a dangerous situation by the public system whose perversity stands the point of protection on its head, punishing anyone using common sense and considering intent of any statutes and public intervention and forcing the sibling to be endangered by an out of control sibling, while punishing the parent who can’t intervene. This is the public protection system at its most perverse, thanks to legislators and fearful, rule-bound state officials who can’t bring themselves to do the right thing and can only quote regulations that work counter-productively when the parents are at no fault, unless it is to extract themselves from public criticism…meanwhile that boy could at any time badly hurt his sister and that sort of thing has happened in many, many cases in the past. To do the right thing a state official risks losing his job and maybe career.

  • Kristyn

    Please let Kimberlyn that she can file for a CHINS petetion…Child in need of services. …funded through Comprehensive Services Act funds (State and Feferal funding ) through Western Tidewater Courts. I would be an advocate for her, as a social worker, I’ve seen this scenario mutiple times.

  • Kristyn

    (Correction )….Please let Kimberlyn know that she can file for a CHINS petetion…Child in need of services. &/or Child in need of Supervision …funded through Comprehensive Services Act funds (State and Feferal funding ) through Western Tidewater Behavioral Sciences Dept Or JDD&D Courts. I would be an advocate for her, as a Social Worker, for over 30 years, I’ve seen this scenario mutiple times. Kimberlyn, HANG IN THERE!!….All is not lost…Contact me via wtkr if needed. We are here for you and you are a wonderful mother! Never doubt that. You’re willing to be incarcerated for your child…Courageous and Inspiring. ….♡♡♡

  • Donna McCartney

    It takes far more courage and strength to fight for what you know to be right, than it does to do nothing. I have personally been there. Being afraid ‘of ‘and ‘for ‘ your child is the most horrible feeling. Parents have been disempowered under our current legal system and it is incredibly difficult to put a child such as this on the right path. Stay strong.

  • Cynthia link

    I had a serious problem with my nephew i had custody of being abusive to me and a 75 year old roomate he was 286lbs 6ft at 16 police wouldnt take him out of my house and wouldnt help me …laws need to be changed yes he was a minor but he took full advantage of that i suffered a torn mcl torn acl bruised miniscus from him pushing me down and had to wear a leg brace for several months to work

    • Snugbug

      Perhaps he died in the war or of cancer. Maybe he ditched Ms. Williams while she was pregnant. Maybe she doesn’t know who the dad is. My point is – IT DOESN”T MATTER!

      • tiamaria

        Uh. Lol, it matters. That could be part of the problem right there. Where is dad? Did his dad abuse him? What happened? Not that we need to know but maybe 12 y/o son needs to know.

  • theresa

    I sympathize with her but why on earth would a mother air this child’s shortcoming with the media. To me, that speaks volumes about her character. He’ll probably do much better with someone who can show love and nurturing instead of a ‘throw you under the publicity bus’ attitude.

    • Morgan

      No one will ever love her son more than she does. If she didn’t draw publicity to her struggle, she’d have no hope of beating the system that is designed to put her children in danger. If all she was interested in was throwing him under the bus, she would have sought publicity the first several times he acted out. Before you go around doubting how much she loves her son, I sincerely suggest you examine what YOU would do if your 4 year old daughter was being molested under your roof. The strongest and most difficult thing a parent can do is admit that their child needs more help than they themselves can provide.

    • Michele Strotman

      As a mother with a child in almost the exact same situation, I understand completely what she is going through and what she is facing. My ex husband and I were charged with abandonment for not picking up our son at the Residential Treatment Facility he was in – for the same exact reasons her son is in one. “Airing” the information doesn’t say diddly about the love she has for her son. What it says is that she is up against a wall and she took this outlet to get the info out there, to let the world know what is going on, to get help.

      We were faced with the same scenario and had we not been told by CPS to leave our son at the facility directly, we would have probably taken the same route. This stuff is happening all over the country. Our children, the ones who have mental illness, Autism Spectrum Disorders and behavior issues due to a mental incapacity, are growing up – they are getting bigger and their small outbursts are becoming increasingly more difficult to manage. Then, the sexual assault happens and our worlds get twisted upside down. Our families are ripped apart and our other children suffer just as much. It’s a safety issue and if you can’t see that, i’m very sorry.

    • Cherry James

      Theresa: OBVIOUSLY you haven’t read the entire article!! However, you do sound like quite an intelligent, caring individual; maybe YOU should petition the courts and take custody of this child!!!

  • Doogles

    uhhhh can we get the name of this kid and a photo? so i can avoid him
    and the comments from other people in this about how their kids are just as bad are equally troublesome…….

  • strotman4711

    I left a message for the news reporter to give Kimberlyn my contact information if she would like someone to talk with who has gone through the exact same thing, including the abandonment charges.

  • Snugbug

    Ms. Williams, I am so very sorry that it’s come to this for you and your son. I, too, have a son with Asperger’s and my husband and I have experienced the violent outburst ourselves. In the past, he used to threaten first my husband and then me if I tried to restrain him or keep him from potentially carrying out the acts he verbally described. Fortunately, he no longer threatens others but, now when he gets out of control, he punches and scratches his face and says he wishes he were dead. I just want you to know that, unfortunately or fortunately (?), you are not alone and that you have my sympathy, empathy and support. I hope your son gets the help he needs and I hope that your family can soon begin to heal.

  • marcopolish

    Hi. I have been helping a friend with her son’s similar problem and observing the difficulties she has had here, exactly similar problems and exactly similar dilemma that the mother faces in your Virgina, with your own state’s department of human services division for child protections. Of course we here are saddled with the longest serving Republican Governor in the nation, and a strongly Republican house, so we have our dilemma with that. But why does Virginia?

    Was remarking on whether the governor of your state would allow such a thing and then noticed that your governor is Hilary Clinton’s best fundraiser and buddy from the DNC…which makes the question now relevant here in Iowa when she starts spending efforts here in our first of the nation caucuses exposure. Was wondering how an ally of the Clinton’s can get away with this kind of public policy that makes parents become victims and subject to criminal charges simply to help a needy family and protect a vulnerable citizen. Maybe someone from your state knows. Here in Iowa we will be interested and paying attention to Hillary and her buddy, your governor, on how the democrats really do things and what seems to be really important to them. Thanks all.

  • tiamaria

    The video nor the article said anything about him having Asperger’s Syndrome. It sounds like no one knows what’s wrong with him, not even the medical professionals at this time. I think they need to keep him until they find out what is truly his diagnoses so that they can get him the proper treatment. Quite pushing him off, because right now he is his mother’s problem. When he turns 18 he will be everybody’s problem. He will become a mentally ill adult out in the world with no treatment. That’s not what anyone needs.

  • The Way It Is

    Just chop his head off and be done with it. If you can’t integrate into society, then you have no place in it.

  • Belinda

    I think this is very wrong. The facility the child is currently in is a long term facility that is not SUPPOSE to discharge the child until they believe the child is no longer a harm to themselves or others. This is after personal and family therapy. This woman is not talking to the right people or doesn’t have the money to pay for the child to continue to stay (which in itself is wrong). I would call Poplar Springs Academy in Petersburg. They should be able to help find the child a placement since Riverside doesn’t want to help this family.

    • marcopolish

      Those facilities do so all the time…their view is strongly malleated by their financial interest (when the money runs out) and the pressures put on them by the payors and state level politicians and bureaucracies; and I know that from personal experience in my 25 year career with that very same department and its partners and stakeholders in another state.

  • cindy

    Gibault……is a great place in Terra Haute,Indiana our grandson had almost all those things. I will pray for your family as we went through this with our son who is now 38 and in jail. please call them and see if they will take your son…i dont recall if my daughter had to go through her family doctor or not .http://www.gibault.org/

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